If I were to ask you if you are emotionally available, what would you say?
Most women I work with yell from the rooftops how available they are. They think they could not be more available...they are dying to be in a relationship.
But if there is something that I have learned in my 9+ years of doing this it is that some many women I work with "think" they are emotionally available and just plain aren't.
Today on the podcast, I am breaking it down. Listen up!
I know I have, have you?
When you meet someone and it just feels so, so right. You can't help but just say "fuck it! Let's do this!" Right?
I have thoughts and stories and even some theories to share about whether or not you should just follow your heart...or not.
This week, I get personal again.
I tie up the story about my Dad's passing and what it has to do with my relationship.
What I learned and how the stories about what your relationship is "supposed to" be like it total bullshit.
Well some are. But many are not.
However there may be a whole other piece at play that you are not even thinking about and today I break that down for you.
Ready for one part honest stories +one part really smart stuff + one part ridiculous talk about 90s fashion?
Today, I have two of my favorite people on earth on my podcast. Amy Smith from thejoyjunkie.com and Andrea Owen from yourkickasslife.com.
We got together for this awesome interview to talk about our own struggles, share some funny stories and talk all things 90s. We also talk about the amazing retreat we having coming up in October that you don't want to miss! Check it out at tripletconference.com
I also mentioned that one of my favorite (and single) guys might be joining us at the conference for a little bit. Have you met my friend Rob Mack? He is pretty awesome.
He also looks like this..yeah that sucks.
Listen up, enjoy the ride and join me in California in October!
I have a guest on the podcast this week and it is pretty much my favorite guest ever...my boyfriend Danny!!!!
He is on the podcast to talk about the ridiculous night we met, the beginning of our relationship and what we did wrong and right!
It's a good one. Listen up!
I am sharing my guts all over the place this episode.
About how I felt about my birthday this week.
Not so great things that happened in Costa Rica.
All of it.
All for the sake of learning. Listen up!
They mean so well...they really do!
But we have to be very, very careful about who we let give us advice about relationships and dating.
Because between you and me....a lot of it sucks.
Listen today, as I break down who to listen to and who is cramping your style...
Nothing sucks worse than when you are feeling down in the dumps, not sure why you are single and someone says to you "you can't find love until you love yourself".
ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME???
If that is true, then we might as well go grab our wine and netflix and give up, right?
Nope. Today, I am going to break down what that REALLY means and how we can hack it a little.
Oh witty banter.
I used to be hooked on it like a drug. But at one point, I realized that my snark was hurting, not helping me create healthy relationships.
Listen to my story today on how why I used to be funnier and why I changed.
Last night I was a shit show.
There was whining, crying, a mild temper tantrum and so much more.
In my former life, I would have lost my shit and feared that it was too much. That I had fucked it up. That it was over.
But things are different now and I am going to tell you how.
And if you are ready to make this different, join me in the next Owner's Manual class. Check it out here!
I am celebrating my two year anniversary soon and as a recovering fixer and super independent, this is a big deal for me.
But there was a moment in the beginning that I know can see was a turning point for me. If I wouldn't have been able to speak up and get past it, we probably wouldn't be here today.
I am going to share that story today and if you want to learn how to ask for what you need in a relationship, join me in the Owner's Manual Class in October!
Confession time...did you know I am a recovering fixer?
Yup. It used to be a major problem.
But not only did it not get me to the relationship I wanted, it ultimately made me an asshole.
Let me break down for you why it's important to not date for potential and why you need to change it.
Plus, work on changing it in the next Owner's Manual Class with me.
Hey there Hot Pantses!
Today I am talking about one of my favorite topics when it comes to dating and relationships. Making decisions out of love or fear.
So many things we say in the name of love are not actually love at all.
I will be breaking down the difference today and give you something to think about.
Don't forget to check out our trips at LOAS Travel!
I have been known to buy a ticket on the crazy train once or twice:)
Listen up as I breakdown the difference about truths vs stories in our heads and how they can affect our new relationships.
Oh, and I share a "Kira being ridiculous" story to help you learn. My pain, your gain.
Shit just got real.
I think when we are dating and all things seem lovely and everyone is on their best behavior, we forget about the shit.
The bad days.
The rough times.
The days we are just not fucking winning at life.
This is a story about those times:)
I am a life coach for God’s sake. I think we know I am am mostly rainbows, unicorns with a side of sugar cookies. The good kind. With sprinkles.
But we are not fucking around here, people. Love is too amazing to be messed with.
Today I am going to shake shit up by letting you know why you immediately need to stop looking for love and what you need to do instead.
Today, I breakdown why that feeling not only sucks but is pretty much the biggest (love) sabotage ever. I also give you three ways to start getting past all of that.
Today I am going to break down the two reasons people have relationships and which one is killing you (Hint: it's the "complete me" reason)...cause I am good like that.
Listen up as I share my very first theory about love and it just might change your life. Seriously! Would I lie to you?
Your adventure for today: Journal the shit out of these questions.
When was the last time you just showed up as completely you and made someone feel really, really special? Leaving the worries behind.
When have you approached someone with a child-like curiosity and collected their stories like fireflies? Gone slow enough to get to know all of them and just embrace them for exactly who they are?
What does special feel like to you?
Have you cleared away the baggage enough to feel it?
It is gettin' real today. Real good, that is.
Today is a big ass reality check about no matter how much you bitch about it over wine, are you actually ready for love?
Listen up as I break down my thoughts on how to detect about whether or not you are even ready for love if someone great shows up.
It is gettin' real today. Real good, that is.
Today is a big ass reality check about (complicated) dating over 35 and what we need to do about it.
Listen up as I break down my thoughts on settling, divorce and dating with kids. It's smart, but a doozy.
Want a relationship? You effin' create. Men aren't mindreaders.
Listen up as I break down how we need to stop believing that people love us more if they can read our minds. That is looney tunes and kicking your ass...
It is all kinds of genius.
I have her on today as my first ever guest, Andrea Owen, talking about everything you need to know about closure, effed-up relationships and how to get over them.
You want to listen.....immediately.
Well you can't so get over that shit now. However, there are very tell tale signs of people who aren't really ready for a healthy relationship right now.
Listen up as I break down five different personalities that you you should run (not walk) away from.....immediately!