I believe that if there is one thing I have learned in this awesomesauce journey of being a life coach for singles, it is that we make many parts of meeting people and starting relationships WAY MORE COMPLICATED than we have to. We are all so stinkin' scared of getting hurt that we are creating weird ass lists, rules and games to pretty much guarantee no one is getting close to us. EVER!
Check out the easy way to do this without making an ass of yourself.
I realize that I am cotton candy and rainbows most of the time, but this podcast is about hard-core truths! Quit your whining...there is some really good stuff here today!
Listen in as Kira drops some knowledge on the difference between love and relationships and which one you should be looking for. Also, a mindset that will help you move into better relationships when you find them.
It's pretty good stuff, promise.
Take a step back and look at your relationship role models. What did you learn? Is it going to help you create a good relationship? Who can be your new relationship role models? What are they doing to create something that lasts? What can you start working on today to get yourself ready?
Can I help?
It is just such an important topic and one that we all need to hear and talk about. So please ignore my feistiness if it offends, but hear the message behind it. It is a doozy.
Listen below to this feisty, frustrated, saltiness that is all meant with love:)
Everyone has something to teach you and even if you have dug in a little and are seeing some differences that aren’t going to work, everyone has a story you can learn from. The moment you embrace that, this dating thing is going to get a whole lot better. You might even be amazed what you find out.
Go out this week and collect stories. Open up your child-like curiosity and just listen. Learn. and more importantly understand. Because when we understand who people are and where they are coming from that is where love and kindness and a whole lot of amazing can grow.
Get on this.
We all have had the moments when we are out there dating and all of a sudden are asking ourselves...
Listen to my latest podcast that lays down some truth bombs about what to do when we get stuck in that WTF place.
Journal on these questions and feel free to share your answers below.
Create a list of all of the WTF’s in your life. Whether they are with someone you are seeing, friends, family or even co-workers. If you are not ok with it, how are you going to teach them to treat you? What are you going to tell them you need? What can you do in return?
I blogged about this a while ago, but it needed to be said. Out loud. To the masses.
Yes, I am being dramatic.
I can't even try to tell you how many times I hear the stories. "We had a couple of dates, I was interested and then I never heard from them again!"
I mean, what?
What about dating nowadays says that you don't need to let someone know you are interested? That letting them hang there, wondering what the heck happened, has become ok?
I am on a mission to change this and I want your help!
Let's pull the crazy train in the station, shall we?
Today's podcast is the importance or changing this and then HOW to do it.
Today's hard core truth: When you are dating, there are going to be freak outs & awkward moments, but we HAVE to remember to be kind to each other.
Your Adventure of the Day: Today, is easy. Just commit to help make the change. Understanding that with this basic kindness comes more love. Then....SPREAD THE WORD! 40 people doing this is a change, but what about 400 or 4000? What would that mean for dating today?
How would everything look if we all just were a little kinder to each other. Need help?
Here is a script for you to follow when that awkward moment happens. Script for letting someone down easy
“I just want to tell you thank you so much for the time we have spent together. I have to be honest that I am not wanting to move this forward and just don’t feel it is what I am looking for right now. I have really loved getting to know you and truly appreciating getting a glimpse into your life. I wish you the best of luck."
No you can fucking do that...
Oh, the heart.
It plays such an important role in love....
It leads you towards love and even breaks a little when it is over. OR DOES IT???
Listen to my latest podcast that lays down some truth bombs about the heart and all of it's wily ways.
Today's hard core truth: We can't always help who we are attracted to, but we DO get to choose if they stay in our life.
Your Adventure of the Day: Journal on these questions and feel free to share your answers below. What bad behavior and excuses are you blaming on the heart? Where are you victimizing yourself so that you can’t move forward towards love?
So you say you want a relationship.
When was the last time you sat down and really asked yourself that question?
It is something I ask every potential client and many of them don’t have the answer. It is just assumed as the next step in so many people’s lives. But if you have no idea what you are looking for how will you know when you have found it?
Today, I am going to break down some thoughts for you on what is going to point you in the healthy direction of a relationship and what is going to lead you to the same crap situation.
Today, I breakdown one thing we are forgetting about love and relationships nowadays and is the most important thing. Let me know if you agree.
Here is the original Psychology Today article.
One day, I woke up and didn’t want to date unavailable men anymore and I had to have a tough moment where I needed to fess up to myself that it was ME choosing them. Again and again.
I was the one buying the ticket to the crazy train and that shit was on me.
Today, I break down what I have learned about why I was dating unavailable men and how I changed it.
Learn from my mistakes, grasshopper.
It comes up a lot with my clients.
And why wouldn’t it? Let’s be honest, there are a lot of shit relationships out there and if you have been dating for awhile there is a pretty good chance you have been in at least one.
You probably have even caught yourself saying "I feel like I can't trust anyone." But today I break down that is not about them, Sugarpants. That shit is all about you.