After nine years of coaching and working with single women, there is one thing I know to be true...that without even knowing it so many women are giving away their power, worth and confidence ever single day.
But it doesn't have to be that way.
Today, I break down what this looks like and what to do instead. Because we can't make chicken salad out of chicken shit!
No matter how much you love the holidays, when you are single there are some just some annoying as fuck parts to it that it can downright tarnish your jingle bells.
So, today, I am going to cut through the crap and just talk mindsets and strategies to just get through it. Through the obnoxious relatives, awkward parties and just overall grinchy moments that make the holidays less than stellar when you are single.
Let's grab the holidays by the jingle bells...
Nothing sucks worse than when you are feeling down in the dumps, not sure why you are single and someone says to you "you can't find love until you love yourself".
ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME???
If that is true, then we might as well go grab our wine and netflix and give up, right?
Nope. Today, I am going to break down what that REALLY means and how we can hack it a little.
Oh witty banter.
I used to be hooked on it like a drug. But at one point, I realized that my snark was hurting, not helping me create healthy relationships.
Listen to my story today on how why I used to be funnier and why I changed.
Last night I was a shit show.
There was whining, crying, a mild temper tantrum and so much more.
In my former life, I would have lost my shit and feared that it was too much. That I had fucked it up. That it was over.
But things are different now and I am going to tell you how.
And if you are ready to make this different, join me in the next Owner's Manual class. Check it out here!
It's happens to the best of us.
Even if we are out there trying, dating, mating all of the things, a lot of the time we keep a plan b. Someone on the other end of the computer/phone who will text us when we are feeling lonely or need a little attention.
Today, I share my personal story about my plan b and how I finally gave it up to create an awesome relationship!
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I am celebrating my two year anniversary soon and as a recovering fixer and super independent, this is a big deal for me.
But there was a moment in the beginning that I know can see was a turning point for me. If I wouldn't have been able to speak up and get past it, we probably wouldn't be here today.
I am going to share that story today and if you want to learn how to ask for what you need in a relationship, join me in the Owner's Manual Class in October!
Confession time...did you know I am a recovering fixer?
Yup. It used to be a major problem.
But not only did it not get me to the relationship I wanted, it ultimately made me an asshole.
Let me break down for you why it's important to not date for potential and why you need to change it.
Plus, work on changing it in the next Owner's Manual Class with me.
Hey there Hot Pantses!
Today I am talking about one of my favorite topics when it comes to dating and relationships. Making decisions out of love or fear.
So many things we say in the name of love are not actually love at all.
I will be breaking down the difference today and give you something to think about.
Don't forget to check out our trips at LOAS Travel!
Oh Hot Pants...
I am channeling some Pat Benatar today and am All Fired UP!
Let's talk about this scary word "settling" and what it REALLY means.
Trust me, I have some big thoughts that are going to change the way you think of settling. Who's excited!
Don't forget there are a couple of spots left to my Costa Rica retreat in Feb, 2017. Check it out here.
If you are single, you have a job to do. Maybe you didn't know that...but I am here to tell you the truth!
Your job, as I break it down on the podcast today, is to know understand what your true goal is in love.
Is it crazy chemistry?
A long-term relationship?
The whole kit and kaboodle?
That's great! Then are you living a life and making choices to get there?
I am laying it down today. Join me.
I pretty much think it is the bane of our existence in dating.
Dramatic, maybe. Untrue? Nope.
Ghosting is pretty much crap for lots of reasons...I wrote the article about that here.
But today I break down the REAL reason that ghosting is a problem for everyone!
Check it out!
We have apologies, announcements, haikus, jedi mind tricks, everything all over this episode.
But if there is one thing it is....it is real.
Because it is my goal to start doing more podcasts and just sharing my knowledge. Even if it sounds awkward...
Check out the new singles travel site and join me in Costa Rica!
I have been known to buy a ticket on the crazy train once or twice:)
Listen up as I breakdown the difference about truths vs stories in our heads and how they can affect our new relationships.
Oh, and I share a "Kira being ridiculous" story to help you learn. My pain, your gain.
Shit just got real.
I think when we are dating and all things seem lovely and everyone is on their best behavior, we forget about the shit.
The bad days.
The rough times.
The days we are just not fucking winning at life.
This is a story about those times:)
I am a life coach for God’s sake. I think we know I am am mostly rainbows, unicorns with a side of sugar cookies. The good kind. With sprinkles.
But we are not fucking around here, people. Love is too amazing to be messed with.
Today I am going to shake shit up by letting you know why you immediately need to stop looking for love and what you need to do instead.
Today, I breakdown why that feeling not only sucks but is pretty much the biggest (love) sabotage ever. I also give you three ways to start getting past all of that.
Today I am going to break down the two reasons people have relationships and which one is killing you (Hint: it's the "complete me" reason)...cause I am good like that.
Listen up as I share my very first theory about love and it just might change your life. Seriously! Would I lie to you?
Your adventure for today: Journal the shit out of these questions.
When was the last time you just showed up as completely you and made someone feel really, really special? Leaving the worries behind.
When have you approached someone with a child-like curiosity and collected their stories like fireflies? Gone slow enough to get to know all of them and just embrace them for exactly who they are?
What does special feel like to you?
Have you cleared away the baggage enough to feel it?
It is gettin' real today. Real good, that is.
Today is a big ass reality check about no matter how much you bitch about it over wine, are you actually ready for love?
Listen up as I break down my thoughts on how to detect about whether or not you are even ready for love if someone great shows up.
It is gettin' real today. Real good, that is.
Today is a big ass reality check about (complicated) dating over 35 and what we need to do about it.
Listen up as I break down my thoughts on settling, divorce and dating with kids. It's smart, but a doozy.
Want a relationship? You effin' create. Men aren't mindreaders.
Listen up as I break down how we need to stop believing that people love us more if they can read our minds. That is looney tunes and kicking your ass...
It is all kinds of genius.
I have her on today as my first ever guest, Andrea Owen, talking about everything you need to know about closure, effed-up relationships and how to get over them.
You want to listen.....immediately.
Well you can't so get over that shit now. However, there are very tell tale signs of people who aren't really ready for a healthy relationship right now.
Listen up as I break down five different personalities that you you should run (not walk) away from.....immediately!
It is one more in the Kira Chronicles where I am sharing my own mistakes and heartaches for your learnin'. You're welcome.
Listen up as I talk today about my own personal story of thinking I knew what love was and being absolutely and completely wrong.